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From: "M" To: "JE Jail" <[email protected]> Subject: catalyst Date: Wed, 30 Dec 2009 21:33:49 +0000 I don't think will be able to help me today so I am sending this without having her input and I hope you can he me work on the details. If we try to put this relationship back together and I come to Florida, here is what I propose; I will do my best not to be negative or complain especially regarding other girls. If I accidentally say something, you find bothersome, I ask you to remind me. We can have a word meaning I need to stop whatever I am doing or talking about- 'kvakash' is a funny Slovak expression for nagging. The big problem as I understand k, was the lad( of balance between play time and responsibility time. So I'd Ike to define and separate the time I spend helping, contributing to the relationship, the time I spend doing things for myself, and the quality time we spend together. 1. The majority of time I can learn things helpful to you practice cooking give you facials. rub your head run errands entertain your female guests or anything else I rtesrrihe helm I am uncertain about how else I can be of help right now after not having seen you for 6 weeks. I am not sure if your routine has changed so I need you tell me what you'd like me to do when I am with you. When you ask for something I will do it right away or let you know if I can't. I will read one of the great brinks every six weeks. I will continue to exercise at least 3x a week, Probably more (except when sick or on my period) I will continue to learn to cooking as I know I need help in this department. I can make breakfast for you x times a week - ask you the evening before or just have set days...you should tell me which way you prefer. I am not sure if you still eat oatmeal/muffins and then eggs a little later or you just have one meal now • should I do the second breakfast or the early one? I enjoy learning about eggs, trying afferent recipes, ways to cook them, temperatures, getting the timing perfect for each style.. I now understand it takes going through hundreds of eggs, different brands, and doing the same thing over and over again until it's right, but I still have a lot to leam. The possibilties and the dishes are endless and exciting so I think ft could be fun for you if I really made that my specialty and was able to make egos better than you could vet them anywhere else. Correct me if I wrong. I do understand that you'd like me to learn to cook, not just make eggs. This is just a start. when we agree I perfected that, I will learn to cook something else... appetizers, vegetables, meat...you choose what you like. The way I learn Is clearly not the same as the way you learn and f need you to accept that. After learning the basics, getting some Instruction, the key for me Is to pact* on my own. I can't skip this part and just listen to the teachers or practice with them. 1 dont expect to be good at something alter taking a class until! actually do it a fe times on my own. Learning to land wawa perfect example I saw how it was done, I uldriguut.1 the concept, I knew the steps yet I still couldnt do it until I spent hours alone in the plane, experimented made mistakes and finally got it... Not by listening to the instructions • although I agree I needed that to understand the very basics - t by trying different methods. And Mars how I'd like to approach cooking and anything else! by to learn to be helpful. One of the other difficulties for me was not understanding when you want me to take care of somethingsersonally and when ft is ok to let lanush or someone else handle it, so I'd like you to be clear about it or I will ask you. 2. As organizing my time has been a problem, I think it might be a good idea for me to have 2 days a week off - without errands and responsibilities when I can go flying get a massage or whatever my hobby might be at the time and not feel guilty about it. These can be any 2 days we decide; I can put them on the schedule at the beginn of each week. The rest of the time all week I am happy to devote to helping and doing things for you. I think it will take the pressure off and allow me to focus on workin during the other days knowing I will have some time for myself later. 3. It is also important to me to have alone quality time with you - watch a movie or eat together, have visitation or go for a walk once you can leave the house. You can g me a suggestion as to how we do this. I don't want to schedule it where you fed forced to spend time but I'd like to make sure we don't forget I am really sorry for making you unhappy and being a burden. I love to see you have fun, giggle and have that look like you are up to something. I want to be a catalyst for that, not an obstacle. This will be difficult and I understand your reservations but I'd like to make it work and I am willing to try my best. I love you and Bake misses your routine EFTA00765634